Oops, I forgot my daughter's birthday! My second daughter, Sage, was born two weeks after I finished chemotherapy to treat Hodgkin's lymphoma. My brain was rather mushy. For several years I couldn't get her birthday correct. First I was off by a month and several days, then just off by several days. Now I do know and remember Sage's birthday. As I write this she is 12 years old. I think. Yes, that's right. Sage is an interesting kid. She was born massive, super solid, had a big head. She was energetic and enthusiastic. For her first couple years being near her head was dangerous. She loved to throw her head back when she was excited. I think she broke my nose once doing that. She gave me several gobstoppers to the jaw and almost knocked me out another time with a hand bang to the head.
She was a character. In the foreign service, when assigned to a post abroad, we have government issued furniture. We always have these long dining room tables made from dark, heavy wood. I hate them. My kids, however, have always used at least half of these tables for art, games, school work, and simply making huge messes. These tables feature prominently in our lives and in my memory. We returned to Shanghai after my chemo and Sage's birth, staying there another year. Sage had a highchair at the long, dark table. I guess at some point she started to resent being stuck there, or the reverse, maybe she lorded it over us from her highchair perch. I write this because out of the blue she started doing this thing from the highchair. She would look at her big sister, mom and dad in turn with a squinched mischievous and tight lipped grin, then start huffing and puffing through her nose like demon about to explode. The first time she did this we were shocked then melted into laughter. Maybe that's why she kept it up for several more weeks. But that is how I think of Sage in her earlier years, energetic and ferocious, and mostly glowing with happy positivity except when she was a rage of anger or heartbreak.
I remember in Brazil sword fighting with Sage. Not with real swords of course; wooden ones. Solveig and I, plus Sage, free-for-all with no sides. Sage was around age three, so Solveig around age six or seven. Either Solveig or I accidently tapped Sage on the knuckles. Not hard, but it must have surprised her. She became a force - huffing and puffing, screaming and cackling with rage and laughter, put the fear into Solveig and I as we ran all over the house to escape her unrestrained blows. That's how I member Sage in her younger years.
She is different now. We all change. She's still very much her own spirit, does her own thing. She dropped the unabashed and exuberant force she once projected and exchanged it for a more sensitive and quiet repose. She's super creative, like Solveig, but more so. Solveig is meticulous. Sage is wild and careless, starting and finishing project after project in one short burst after another. Their creative energy is amazing, especially Sage. I can't keep up.
At age ten Sage made a couple of length choose-your-own path adventure comics 30-50 pages long. Just one example of those creative bursts.


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